Pricey Amy: I feel I used to be scammed!
As a divorced 62-year-old girl on a set earnings, I lately employed somebody to carry out plumbing repairs at my home that insurance coverage wouldn’t cowl. His bid was considerably decrease than the others, and he might begin the following day.
He requested for half down, so I despatched him 50 p.c ($300) by a web-based fee system.
Effectively, the following day he by no means confirmed up. After I known as and texted him a number of occasions, he texted me 5 days later that his mom had suffered seven strokes and was within the hospital, so he wasn’t working all week.
One other week glided by, and I texted him to see how his mom was doing and if he was going to have the ability to get the job carried out.
I haven’t heard again from him, and I’m suspicious that I by no means will. I really feel like an fool for not getting a contract to see if he was licensed, bonded and insured.
Ought to I proceed to contact him?
I’ve his title and quantity and wish to warn folks in my neighborhood on the social media platform NextDoor.com.
Possibly that might be a foul thought in case he sees and comes after me? Groan.
Any ideas on find out how to get my a refund, or ought to I write this off as a loss?
– Feeling Duped!
Pricey Duped: One crimson flag I see is that the employee solely responded to your contact after it was apparent that you just weren’t going away. (And “seven strokes” is nearly too particular.)
It is best to contact him once more: “I see that you just aren’t going to have the ability to even begin the plumbing job, so I’ll want you to refund the $300 deposit I made after we agreed that you’d do the work. Please refund this cash right now.”
If he refunds your cash, the one factor it’s essential do is to search out one other plumber.
Nextdoor.com is perhaps a very good place to submit a question to discover a plumber advisable by individuals who stay in your space. I might not title and trash him on that website (which has one thing of a status for being poisonous), however you would ask in non-specific phrases if others close by have had an identical expertise. (Needless to say there’s a distant risk that every little thing he has informed you is true.)
In case you don’t get well your cash, take him to small claims courtroom. Additionally file a grievance with the workplace in your state that handles client complaints (normally the lawyer basic’s workplace).
Pricey Amy: I’m a 75-year-old mom and grandmother. I stay with my 55-year-old daughter and 35-year-old step-grandson.
My drawback is with my daughter, my solely youngster.
The one time she is good to me is when she desires one thing.
She is vital of every little thing I do and consistently says hurtful issues to me and my grandson.
I’ve thought so many occasions about shifting, however realizing that she will’t make it with out my Social Safety earnings retains me there.
She has a very good job however spends the vast majority of her earnings on weed.
My grandson is simply the alternative: loving, caring, useful and understanding.
I simply wish to get pleasure from the remainder of my life with out the despair and damage I’m experiencing now. I’m exhausted from strolling on eggshells.
Ought to I (and my grandson) keep or go?
– Hurting Coronary heart
Pricey Hurting: Go! Your grandson feels like a accountable individual. In case you two have a very good rapport, it is perhaps a good suggestion to hunt housing collectively. You may also contemplate sharing housing with one other senior.
You might qualify for elder housing designed for lower-income seniors, or different applications that might give you a strategy to complement your earnings (if wanted) as a way to stay by yourself. Verify along with your native Workplace on Getting older for housing and different alternatives in your space.
You’re feeling plenty of strain to help your daughter since you consider she “wants” your earnings. However what you might be really doing is supporting her weed behavior. She makes use of you, you allow her, and there you all are – trapped in a poisonous triangle.
Pricey Amy: One other reader weighing in in your horrible recommendation to “Keen Dad,” who needed to contact his grownup organic youngster out of the blue. He ought to go away this individual alone!
Pricey Disenchanted: I took this individual to process for each single alternative he had made on this regard, however I do consider that the kid has the proper to find out about their DNA parentage.
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